Wine, Women and Fitness
Why Your Trainer Shouldn’t Tell You To Give up Wine
I had a conversation with a friend today about wine. She uses it daily (only a glass or two) every night when she comes home from work at her super high-stress job. She also wants to lose weight (specifically around her mid-section). She’s not an alcoholic, the wine doesn’t interfere with her work, she doesn’t drink and drive.
I typically work with women over 40 and I have this conversation at least once with almost every client I work with.
My client’s problem:
I want to lose weight, especially around my mid-section. What is the best thing for me to do?
The answer most trainers give that their clients ignore:
If you want to lose the weight, give up the wine.
Here’s why that advice never works:
You already know that. Duh! If it was that easy you would have done it already.
You’re not willing/able to follow the advice. I don’t mean you’re an alcoholic. I mean you like your wine and you don’t have another mechanism readily available to help you cope with stress.
You already know that. (Yes, I said it twice.) You’re looking for a solution to a problem that you may not be ready to solve, but by asking the question you feel like you’re making progress…and in some small way, you are.
Social pressure makes the thought of breaking up with wine a tough task even for the strongest among us. It seems like once you hit 40, every meme on your social media is related to wine, it’s on TV, it’s on the radio, it’s everywhere.
What I tell my clients instead…
Set a target. Your brain likes targets. It doesn’t like avoidance. This means you have to set yourself up to DO something instead of reaching for the glass of wine. Maybe it’s meditation, maybe it’s going for a walk. Maybe it’s drinking from a smaller glass. Maybe it’s drinking water in between glasses of wine.
Make a conscious choice to make the change. Yes, this may mean talking to yourself…”Self, we’re doing something different tonight. We’re going outside and breathing deeply for 3 minutes before we have a glass of wine. Then we’re going for a walk.” You might do this instead of having the glass of wine.
Remember, your health is worth the effort. Sure, it’s only a glass of wine. That’s one way to look at it. It’s only a glass of wine that makes you feel awful when you look in the mirror, is another way to look at it.
Get help. Making changes to your health and wellness isn’t easy. Support, accountability and guidance are key…whether it’s professional help or help from a friend…you are worth it! Remember that…always.